I do not want to come across like I’m being negative or being judgemental. But the main purpose is for all of us to learn from the experience I had. This way, we don’t find ourselves repeating the same thing. On the other hand: let’s prevent from falling in this trap. Or better said, let’s help. By advising them, to help them hear themselves how they come across. How I can provide help to these poeple? …. by recommending the book The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz.

I found this book extremely helpful to me. It changed the way that I now live my life. This was a treasured gift from my best friend Mario. (I also learned from him that sucking the joy out of someone else’s life is unacceptable.) I have read this book now for about three times. I still live by it. It has helped me to be more sensitive to other people; it’s helped me not be the person that plays the martyr. But most importantly, it has helped me to be the strong person that I am.

Enough with “poison” … poisoning the people that surround you is not going to help matters, but yet make it worse. What I mean by poisoning - some people, in general, display their dirty laundry way too easy and too soon. Their thoughts turn negative, filthy and grotesque, and it’s only cynical behavior you hear from them. Lately- I have been seeing it, and I have to stop this negative behavior. Or, at least, I don’t want to be part of it. That’s not THE LIFE STYLE I want to live by. The only way I could help a hand is by walking away. Because negativity leads to anger, violence and a destructive life style.

If one is not happy, why not go to meditate or yoga class. Even more simple, go for a run. But do not let your soul, and others around you, be disturbed. Find a healthy way to overcome the sadness or whatever problem one is going through at the time.

Gradually, something happens inside people that it becomes very normal behavior to always talk BAD about other people. It’s like a program for them to be miserable with themselves, and everything that surrounds them. Well I’m here to hopefully open one or two people’s minds and help them change that attitude.

PLEASE break that mentality because it’s not the most healthy way of living. You will only lose friends, lovers and the people that most love you. I say it in my first blog - get out of the RUT. It’s so unbecoming and so unattractive. It’s probably an illness.

I have learned from my friend Rafael Cosio, to accept with SERENITY the way people and things are, not to pass judgement and, most importantly, to help and to love are the best ways to progress in life. So I hope I can help by writing this blog. For those reading right NOW - hopefully you can relate to me, by passing the wisdom to others without being cynical or judgemental. Let’s pass the LOVE. It’s the only way to live THE LIFE STYLE!!

With these simple words I hope to help others to make a difference IN OUR LIVES!!

And remember, no matter what you look like, you can never be as hopeless as my friend Felix.